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handy4: Hi everyone being new to this world,just wondering why so many people don't want to put their pictures with profile,is it that their shy,or don't want their friends or family or us to see them.Yes it's not easy to put yourself out there I know that,It took me awhile to get the nerve up too. And to me a smile is worth a 1000 words,I know I'm not the best looking guy around but I am what I am.
Please help me understand
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KHD100: Some people do know know how to put a photo in their profile, others might not have one, because they do not want friends, co workers, relatives..... or spouses to know they are on there. :-)

Some people just don't want to be seen.

blueriver30: I agree, and this is just a thought, maybe they hope people will get to know them for who they are and not for what they look like.

Blond32: I agree with that, but when I see a blank I wonder what they are trying to hide.

If someone is going to like you for who you are, you don't need to hide your picture in the first place. I like to know who I'm talking to, physical attraction is just about as important as the emotional connection. So to all the blank pics out there, show us who you are!

zoltar865: Personally I have my own reasons for not showing my picture, if I start communicating with some one I will be happy to share a photo or 2. For those of you who believe that physical attraction or "chemistry" is the main appeal, I will leave you with this thought....in 20 or 30 years, you may be old and gray, withered and wrinkled, but if we can still talk to one another, and if I can still make her laugh, that is what sharing your life is all about.

zoltar865: Personally I have my own reasons for not showing my picture, if I start communicating with some one I will be happy to share a photo or 2. For those of you who believe that physical attraction or "chemistry" is the main appeal, I will leave you with this thought....in 20 or 30 years, you may be old and gray, withered and wrinkled, but if we can still talk to one another, and if I can still make her laugh, that is what sharing your life is all about.

Drewski: ""For those of you who believe that physical attraction or "chemistry" is the main appeal, I will leave you with this thought....in 20 or 30 years, you may be old and gray, withered and wrinkled, but if we can still talk to one another, and if I can still make her laugh, that is what sharing your life is all about.""


Certainly however, if it is simply a spiritual relationship one is after then there is no need to physically meet. If however, there is going to ever be a physical side to the relationship then a picture is essential otherwise how is one to even know if the other person remotely meets any level of attraction so why waste time when the other will not attract you in that aspect?

Now, on the other hand, if it is a purely physical relationship one is after then a picture will do nicely and there is no need for any sort of profile describing your nature, habits, likes or dislikes. Reality dictates that neither a sole spiritual nor physical relationship is reality therefore, a picture and a profile is proper. Otherwise, we would all simply just be shooting in the dark.

As for the '20 or 30 years' observation it is quite right however, one would stand a much better chance of reaching that point if you were attracted to each other in the beginning rather than repulsed would you not think?

""Hello! Another reason might be the fact that some of us are in professions that require us to deal with people with mental illness, issues with addictions (including the criminal behaviour that goes along with addictions), stalkers, pedophiles, and the like. There are counsellors, social workers, treatment centre workers, etc. on here... we need to be safe too :)Yeah, I've got a big curvy butt and personally, I'm proud of it hee hee I'm not hiding, I'm just being safe for the sake of myself and my kids!
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That's perfectly alright however, an idea might be to contact men you are interested and include a photo of yourself to negate that reason. I have no idea if my view is widespread but people who have no photo I just pass by out of lack of interest but those that check me out and have none sort of give me the creeps. Almost like a voyeuristic sort of thing.

definitely_pepsi: Hello! Another reason might be the fact that some of us are in professions that require us to deal with people with mental illness, issues with addictions (including the criminal behaviour that goes along with addictions), stalkers, pedophiles, and the like. There are counsellors, social workers, treatment centre workers, etc. on here... we need to be safe too :)Yeah, I've got a big curvy butt and personally, I'm proud of it hee hee I'm not hiding, I'm just being safe for the sake of myself and my kids!

BlueButterfly: I agree completely! ( Also, at least if someone has a picture chances are better that they are a REAL person... not a bot or someone out to annoy others.... )